thanks ash.........i guess some people are way to sensitive. um, and the whole my g/f has a sister who is disabled, yeah, my ex g/f had a brother like that and i went to the special olympics and everything. what part of drawing attention for some quick help did ya not understand. i usually get pissed when people say something, acutally in got in a fight with my roommate when he said something about the disabled in front of her. also, i was in the nursing program and took care of disabled people and cleaned up after them. so save your breath and time and just dont comment. i have respect for them, its just a comment. so, unless you know the person and how they are acutally using it the phrase, dont comment, just try and help. i may come off as an ass, but people now a days are way to sensitive and whiny for my taste.