well, took it to the shop that installed the fuel pump and they called me and said they couldn't get the car to react like I had described. I went over to the shop and drove the car myself with the mechanic in it. yup, you guessed it. the car fixed its self.
no more problems. grr, I hate that. I feel like I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I have put 50 miles on it since and no issues.
guess I will drive it until it cacks. grrrr