You are correct, you can have 2 phones attached to the sync system, but only 1 can be active at a time, if you wanted to work off of your wife's phone, you would have to disconnect your phone and then connect hers. Doing this will pair the phone to the system and allow you to access her phone book or something like her iTunes or pandora to listen to music.
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