I'm starting the process to try and get this done in the Dallas area, so I feel your pain.
The dealer selling the steering wheels on eBay is Gary Yeoman's Ford in Daytona Beach, FL. I spoke to their service manager, Bill Posey, on the phone today and he said he would be glad to talk to a service manager in my area about how to enable the cruise in the ECM. I'm sure he would be glad to talk to the service manager at your local dealership in Tampa if you can get them to call him. Their number is 386-253-7031.
...Or maybe this is a good excuse for you to take a trip to Daytona Beach. Good luck!