Well my experience isnt going to help, I had the opposite problem. Those two points were too close and I had to push the engine away. Along with my floor jack and a block of wood under the tranny/engine to support/move the weight while trying to get it to line up
If you raise the car higher/lower, will that create a pivot and let gravity push those two points closer? (I'm trying to orientate myself to that picture, front of the car is to the right, correct?) Do you have any ratchet straps you can hook around the subframe and engine to pull those two points closer?
No idea if either of those are viable or dumb...just throwing out ideas. I'm getting the impression you are working on this yourself. Glad you stopped on it last night, sounded like it had be super frustrating (I know i had to sleep on mine after not getting it done the night i tried to install it.)